Many of us are relatively fortunate. We probably haven’t had our lives affected by gross trauma. We might not have been subjected to gross poverty, war, violence, alcoholism or drugs, etc. But could we somehow still have been traumatized and not even realize this? PAST TRAUMA IS AN ADDITIONAL CHALLENGE TO OVERCOME! There is an ongoing stress that follows a traumatic life-event. It’s not just the event itself. The resultant subconscious memories can be considerable. These ar
Part (a) Facing our traumas Think back on your own life; right back to your earliest memories. How has it really been? HOW HAS IT REALLY FELT?... Often, we feel alone, vulnerable & insecure. We might feel totally out of place! It’s as if we don’t belong in our birth family, or even on this planet! We’ve probably also had some traumatic life events, or perceived some experiences as being quite distressing. We might feel wounded and needing to compensate or defend our self i
Most of us lead relatively unsatisfactory lives! WE LEAD LIVES OF RELATIVE MISERY in comparison to what is possible; yet we fiercely deny it! Why? We could have a more meaningful & fulfilling life. We could perceive things differently, respond & behave differently… if we really wanted too! WHY DO WE CONTINUE ON AS BEFORE? Why do we wear a brave face and put on such a false front? Is this FALSE MASK & PERSONA for the benefit of others? Just to appease others? Somehow, we
Sometimes we glimpse the potential benefit of changing our life. Then doubts arise: Should we attempt changing? Will it really succeed? Is it worth the effort? What problems will it produce? OUR DOUBT, DISTRUST AND EVEN CYNICISM CAN SURFACE! Often, we don’t fully accept it’s worth the effort or the risk involved. Or, we don’t really believe we can achieve this. We don't trust the process. Sometimes we foresee potential problems in changing. As a result, WE CAN BECOME UNCE
SOCIETY CONDONES THE STATUS QUO of not changing our self, by encouraging temporary solutions! We have previously discussed the usual ‘SOCIAL ADDICTIONS’ commonly used for temporary relief, such as caffeine, nicotine and alcohol. If we really want to protest our discontent, we might also experiment with additional ‘HARD DRUGS’. We try these to numb our deep despair in this way - to try to artificially break through to who we really are. We seek to distract from or bypass our
We miss out on so much in life… because we attach or ‘grasp too tightly’. We become ‘attached’ in some way to people or material things. We have become habituated or addicted to living this way. We have become ‘addicted to life!’ Background information on this theme is available in Part 1 and Part 2 of this blog. In Part 3 we now continue a discussion of ‘what we miss out on’ and why we miss out? WE CHOOSE TO POSSESS OR ‘HAVE THINGS’, RATHER THAN ‘JUST BE’ OUR TRUE SELF.
Others might see us as being in control, polished and sometimes even clever. OUTWARDLY, WE CAN APPEAR SO CONFIDENT & SUCCESSFUL. That’s however ‘a mask’: just our usual practiced responses and our deeply ingrained habits. INWARDLY WE FEEL EMPTY AND UNFULFILLED. Inside, we are unhappy & discontent. We are in inner turmoil with needs that we can’t quite recognize. WE YEARN FOR A DEEP INNER PEACE. We have not yet found what we truly need. Deep within us there exists a need – a
WE USUALLY DON’T LISTEN TO THE NEEDS OF OUR INNER-SELF! We figuratively dam up these inner urges behind ‘a wall’ and defer them; until FINALLY A BREAK-DOWN OR ‘LEAK’ OCCURS somewhere. A small leak corresponds to a small crisis. A larger crack in ‘the wall’ - a larger crisis. A major break in ‘the dam’ - a major life-threatening crisis. However, we do then get A SPECIAL OPPORTUNITY… an incentive to change our lives! This is another important life lesson (No. 23): A CRISIS F
What can happen if we keep denying our inner needs and our need for unique expression? This leads to an important life lesson, No. 21: RESISTING INNER SELF-EXPRESSION CAUSES UN-EASE. The IMMEDIATE RESULT of deferring or denying this deep need for self-expression is UN-ease. If not recognized and corrected this leads to DIS-order and then can become DIS-ease. Initially we ignore our UN-ease or distract ourselves from the discomfort. This becomes the low-grade dissatisfactio
Unfortunately, most of us downplay our special inner needs. We also deny our vast untapped potential. It all just seems too vague or difficult! We resist our life purpose.
We hold back! This is expressed as life lesson No. 18: WE USUALLY DENY OR AVOID OUR FULL POTENTIAL Most of us delay our inner self-development. We distract ourselves with other things. We waste our energy in denying this inner urge and suppressing it. We hold back the realization of our full potential. I
What else should we be aware of as we consider changing ourselves and our lives? A life-crisis or our chronic dissatisfaction with life is USUALLY A WARNING. It signals that WE HAVE BEEN DOING SOMETHING QUITE WRONG. Often for a long time! Sometimes it just means we have A NEW CHALLENGE TO OVERCOME or ANOTHER LIFE-LESSON TO LEARN. Often the ‘underlying cause’ of our predicament is apparent or even obvious to others. But we ourselves can’t quite see this, yet! So, a crisis give
In any moment we can choose to pause and change our thinking. We can stop a downwards spiral. #attachment #awareness #challenges #contemplation #discernment #cynicism #egomind #emotions #habits #higherconsciousness #lifecrisis #regret #selfsabotage #suffering
A Personal Crisis or Chronic Dissatisfaction? - WHAT A MESS!
We’ve probably all had some experience with a crisis in life. Maybe this was through someone we knew. Perhaps it was personally experienced. We can thus imagine or personally know what it feels like…
A CRISIS CAN FEEL QUITE OVERWHELMING. IT’S LIKE WE’RE IN A REAL MESS. The way out may not be immediately apparent. We can feel confused and even lost. Maybe someone we know is going through a crisis right now. Or perha
When we IGNORE our role as a CHANNEL for universal LOVE... we FEEL the consequence of living without love. #attachment #awakening #connection #emotions #suffering #wellbeing #stress #regret #selfsabotage #lifecrisis #humanity #giving #gratitude
We have such good intentions for our life. This includes our health, work and relationships. We usually want to do the right thing. To do what we inwardly know to be right. To maximize our potential. But somehow it slowly seems to go astray! It all seems much harder to do. We end up delaying or postponing our dreams. Our plans just don’t turn out as we had hoped. Along the way, something seems to have subtly undermined what we had really intended. Is success in life purely d