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Podcast #8: Where are you really at in your mind?

Welcome to the UltimateQuest.org podcast. This is episode #8 and we are continuing the “Finding your passion” series. The title of this episode is “Where are you really at, in your mind?”

In this episode we help you discover where you are really at! Which part of your mind do you most often “go to” with your thoughts? Where does your attention tend to go?

WHERE IN YOUR MIND DO YOU PUT YOUR FOCUS?

Do you know where you really spend your time? We are not speaking in the geographic or physical sense, but with regards to your attention & focus. Where does your awareness rest, most of the time? Are you constantly thinking & analysing? Or do you spend a lot of time in the past, the future, or in some fantasy? If so, that’s where you’re really at! You aren’t actually in true, present moment reality!

Can you work out where your conscious focus or awareness is?



#1. MANY PEOPLE LIVE IN THEIR INTELLECTUAL MIND.


Our intellect is derived from logic & our thought based mind! People residing there tend to be more logical & practical. They analyze most things using their thinking mind! They use data & reason to interpret their world. So that’s where they predominantly ‘live’, in their logical or intellectual mind! Does that apply to you?


Although this intellectual ability can be very useful at times, it’s not our optimal state. It’s limited and does not give us the full picture. It does not provide an optimal assessment of our life. It hence promotes an illusion!


#2. SOME PEOPLE LIVE IN AN IMAGINARY FANTASY ZONE.


Others spend their time elsewhere in their mind! Their attention & awareness resides in another form of illusion or fantasy. Can you guess where this might be?


Their main focus is outside of the zone of logic & reasoning. They create some fantasy state or fairytale within their mind. This can feel like being partly detached or disengaged.

We all do this at times! It can provide a much needed buffer or escape from the real world.


But for some people this fantasy state becomes their norm.


Let’s look at the two main variations of this fantasy zone…

  1. This fantasy can incorporate a vague hope that things will get better in the FUTURE. But if we don’t make a real change right now in the ‘present moment’, then this all just remains a distant hope! If our focus is too much on the future and not enough on the now, then our dreams will never become reality.

  2. Our fantasy might focus on living in the world of our PAST achievements. We enhance these past stories and endlessly relive how wonderful or glorious it all was! But this is still an excuse for not trying something new in the present. So, we end up not doing what we really meant to do. We put off finding our passion & purpose in life. By focussing too much on the past, we never live our true purpose in the present!

There are various other illusory states we all engage in. These range from low-grade daydreams to a more engaging trance-like state. All these illusions delay us making real changes to our life!


#3. MOST PEOPLE ARE CAUGHT IN A MATERIALISTIC TRANCE.


The most seductive fantasy is our entrapment to the materialistic world! This mild illusory state is more powerful & hypnotic. That’s why so many people spend their time & awareness there! They become attracted to the ‘shiny objects’ that the material world dangles in front of them. They focus on materialism and become entranced or hypnotized by it all. So, that’s where their attention & focus remains fixed. They have become trapped in a materialistic trance!


The materialistic world is filled with stories, action & drama. It’s so engaging & alluring! It offers exciting temporary pleasures that can become addictive. No wonder many people seem drawn into it! We become mildly hypnotized by all the stimulation. We forget who we really are. We forget how we are meant to live! Instead, we prioritize WANTING to succeed and NEEDING to acquire things. These materialistic drives are taught to us in our childhood & have been socially conditioned into us.


LIVING IN AN ILLUSION IS LIMITING & BIASED.


Most of us spend our time in some illusion. We might identify with our intellectual mind and reside there. Or we might enjoy living in some fantasy world! Or we might be hypnotically entranced by materialism and focus on always needing and wanting more.

None of these states are our optimal or true reality! They don’t give us the big picture. They are all very limited & biased. We can’t therefore make the best life decisions while in an illusion. This is not how we are meant to live!


WE SUPPRESS OUR POTENTIAL WHEN STUCK IN ILLUSION.


So, what’s the result? It’s a very sad situation for so many! When trapped in illusion, we don’t realize the limitations of this. We might feel comfortable there, but we are not truly whole and at peace.


We avoid living as our true self. We are not content or fulfilled. We miss out on lasting happiness & true joy! We don’t pursue our passion & purpose in life. We deny ourselves our full potential. We miss out! What a pity.


LIVING THE ILLUSION CAN BECOME OUR DEFAULT.


So, why don’t we just break free from this illusion? Why don’t we choose instead to be fully awake & aware? Why don’t we access our best state of consciousness?


The main reason is that we have become so accustomed to living in an illusion. This sub-optimal state has become our normal default position. Over time, we have forgotten how to access our true natural state of our being! So we bypass our most optimal mental state.


WHY DO WE CHOOSE ILLUSION OVER REALITY?


Why do we ignore reality and instead choose to live an illusion? One reason is that true reality can at first seem so bland & neutral! It’s certainly not as alluring as the Las Vegas like experience of the materialistic world! It’s also not as romantic or dreamy as living in a fantasy world, which feels more like Disney Land. And it’s certainly not edgy & clever as the realm of mental intellect.


WE MUST PROACTIVELY CHOOSE REALITY!


It’s so easy to slip into illusion. It’s easy to live on auto-pilot. The alternative is to keep our hands on the controls and steer our direction. To avoid illusion, we must actively choose a conscious state of reality in every moment.


If we don’t proactively seek the truth, then we will miss out on our true reality! Reality is the only place where we can be true self and follow our passion & purpose in life! Reality is where we can engage with our Ultimate Quest!


LIVING IN PRESENT MOMENT REALITY IS OUR NATURAL STATE.


Constantly needing to choose reality might seem overwhelming! But this is actually our natural & spontaneous state of mind. Choosing reality is so easy that we could do this as a young child. Children have natural access to the power of the present moment. They are not held back by the past or obsessed with the future. They are always seeking joy in the present moment, and not trapped in materialism.


ADULTS ARE SOCIALLY CONDITIONED TO BYPASS TRUE REALITY.


Living in reality is more neutral and less exciting than illusion. Therefore reality doesn’t hold our attention as easily. As adults, we have forgotten how to access this natural state of reality! We have become socially conditioned & distracted by the pressures of life. But it is possible to overcome this & return to this natural state. This is our true reality.


PRACTISE CHOOSING REALITY AS OFTEN AS YOU CAN.


As an adult we must re-learn how to recognize the special state of reality. In fact, choosing reality over illusion is a core issue in life! It’s the crux of our human dilemma.


So, we must practice consciously choosing present-moment reality as often as we can. It does get easier with practice! Eventually it can again become our preferred mental state! It can be where we normally reside in our mind.


THE BEST LIFE DECISIONS ARE GROUNDED IN TRUE REALITY.


From this state of reality, we can live more authentically and have a higher quality of life! Holding this state of awareness is also important for making life changing decisions. It’s where we make the best life choices that fulfil our passion & purpose in life! Those optimal choices then bring us more joy, contentment & inner peace.


SUMMARY OF EPISODE #8:


Let’s now review what we have learned in episode #8.

  1. We invited you to explore where your focus & awareness tends to go.

  2. Many people live in their intellectual mind. They only use data & reason to analyse & interpret the world. This is much too limiting!

  3. Some people live in an imaginary fantasy zone or fairytale. They might obsess over past experiences. Or they dwell on vague hopes for the future. They are stuck in their fantasy, and don’t take positive action in the present.

  4. Most people are caught in a materialistic trance. They become attracted to the ‘shiny objects’ of the material world. They are hypnotised by always wanting and needing more.

  5. All of these places where the mind can go are just illusions! None of these states are our optimal or true reality. They are limited & biased and don’t give us the big picture.

  6. It’s so easy to slip into an illusion. It’s like living on auto-pilot. But we can break free by consciously choosing present-moment reality. This requires higher awareness and a hands-on approach.

  7. Choosing reality over illusion might seem hard to do. But it’s actually our most natural state. We could easily do it as children but this has been conditioned out of us as adults. But we can learn to do it again and it becomes easier with practice.

  8. By choosing to live in present-moment reality, we live more authentically. We make better life choices that fulfil our passion & purpose in life.

But how do we navigate this optimal state of mind and stay there? We explain this in the next UltimateQuest.org podcast which is episode #9. It’s titled “Optimising your state of mind”. Hope to see you there!