What’s holding back our personal growth? Perhaps we’re trapped in a dream-like state and just don’t realize it... LIKE A MILD HYPNOTIC TRANCE! In this state we certainly aren’t asleep, but neither are we fully aware, or in control. This pleasant mental state can tempt us, and so often we go along with it! THIS STATE PROVIDES A TEMPORARY MENTAL ESCAPE. We detune from an unpleasant situation or from the harsh & brutal world! This can also briefly ease our frustration or boredom
Many of us are relatively fortunate. We probably haven’t had our lives affected by gross trauma. We might not have been subjected to gross poverty, war, violence, alcoholism or drugs, etc. But could we somehow still have been traumatized and not even realize this? PAST TRAUMA IS AN ADDITIONAL CHALLENGE TO OVERCOME! There is an ongoing stress that follows a traumatic life-event. It’s not just the event itself. The resultant subconscious memories can be considerable. These ar
Our lives seem to lack direction! We just don’t understand the meaning & purpose of our life. So, we can wander aimlessly. We get trapped in the material world, with its temporary pleasures & tempting distractions. Is it just about competition & survival of the fittest? CONTEMPLATE THE TRUE PURPOSE OF YOUR LIFE! The discussion below is an opportunity for you to START this important INNER process. Seeking your true purpose is an important part of personal development and your
Part (a) Facing our traumas Think back on your own life; right back to your earliest memories. How has it really been? HOW HAS IT REALLY FELT?... Often, we feel alone, vulnerable & insecure. We might feel totally out of place! It’s as if we don’t belong in our birth family, or even on this planet! We’ve probably also had some traumatic life events, or perceived some experiences as being quite distressing. We might feel wounded and needing to compensate or defend our self i
We have been socially conditioned and ‘herded’ to respond to controversial ideas in a certain way. NEW & INDEPENDENT IDEAS ARE VIEWED WITH SUSPICION! Instead we been taught to accept strategies produced by government committees & scientific organizations. Anyone advocating an alternative and non-conventional solution is readily branded a misfit or a radical. In the political sphere, they are automatically considered a revolutionary or a terrorist. We have been taught to be fe
Our world is in chaos. Most agree it’s a real mess. So, what do we usually do? WE LOOK TO OUR POLITICAL & COMMUNITY LEADERS FOR A SOLUTION. We have been socially conditioned to elect them and grant them authority to act on our behalf. Their motivation & priorities are unfortunately usually very different to ours! Survival for them means staying in power! Success for them means being in control! CREATING LASTING PEACE & HARMONY IS NOT A POLITICAL PRIORITY. Our politicians & co
The world is in a bad way! What a mess! Everything seems in CHAOS. This seems so apparent. Bad news is everywhere! We watch it on television, read it in the press, hear it on the radio and view it on our internet feed. If it’s not overt conflict & death, then it’s fear of more terror. WE EXIST IN A STATE OF GLOBAL UNCERTAINTY & GREAT TURMOIL. Political instability contributes to this uncertainty, triggering uprising or revolt. Each nation fears some other. One community rese
We are NOT that outer facade or ‘mask’ we wear. We are not just our social conditioning! We don’t need to remain wounded & skewed by past traumas. WE CAN BREAK FREE OF ALL THAT MIND CONTROL! We have the right to choose happiness! We have the right to be permanently happy! Each of us is a unique and precious individual. We each have deep inner needs and a unique life purpose. Only by discovering this special purpose and exploring our potential will we find contentment & fulfi
Deep within us, we all have unique personal drives: our inner needs, desires & dreams. WE UNKNOWINGLY SUPPRESS OUR POWERFUL INNER-DRIVES for the perceived benefit of our family, clan & community. So, we march to someone else’s drumbeat, not to our own unique rhythm. We unwittingly surrender our individuality & uniqueness to group pressure! This leads to life lesson No. 61: COMPLYING WITH GROUP VALUES MAY NOT BE OUR BEST OPTION By complying with group norms, we deny ourselve
Sometimes we glimpse the potential benefit of changing our life. Then doubts arise: Should we attempt changing? Will it really succeed? Is it worth the effort? What problems will it produce? OUR DOUBT, DISTRUST AND EVEN CYNICISM CAN SURFACE! Often, we don’t fully accept it’s worth the effort or the risk involved. Or, we don’t really believe we can achieve this. We don't trust the process. Sometimes we foresee potential problems in changing. As a result, WE CAN BECOME UNCE
LET’S START WITH A WARNING… Some people have an initial Realization then rush off and make dramatic or even drastic changes to their lives. There are stories of people who, after a life-crisis, completely change their job, their lifestyle and even their relationships. They make a complete ‘sea change’: For example, a merchant banker or top executive who now seems content to run a small hobby farm or simply to meditate in nature. Some move to a commune or adopt some ‘altern
SOCIETY CONDONES THE STATUS QUO of not changing our self, by encouraging temporary solutions! We have previously discussed the usual ‘SOCIAL ADDICTIONS’ commonly used for temporary relief, such as caffeine, nicotine and alcohol. If we really want to protest our discontent, we might also experiment with additional ‘HARD DRUGS’. We try these to numb our deep despair in this way - to try to artificially break through to who we really are. We seek to distract from or bypass our
We miss out on so much in life… because we attach or ‘grasp too tightly’. We become ‘attached’ in some way to people or material things. We have become habituated or addicted to living this way. We have become ‘addicted to life!’ Background information on this theme is available in Part 1 and Part 2 of this blog. In Part 3 we now continue a discussion of ‘what we miss out on’ and why we miss out? WE CHOOSE TO POSSESS OR ‘HAVE THINGS’, RATHER THAN ‘JUST BE’ OUR TRUE SELF.
WE YEARN FOR INNER-PEACE… Inwardly we long for inner contentment & fulfillment in our lives. This state can ONLY be ACHIEVED THROUGH SELF-REALIZATION & TRUE SELF-EXPRESSION. This means understanding our inner-most needs & releasing our true potential. A different way of conveying this concept is that:
Lasting happiness and inner peace can only be generated from deep within our self, not from the outside world. FINALLY, SOME OF US SEE THIS TRUTH. Some achieve this realizatio
Others might see us as being in control, polished and sometimes even clever. OUTWARDLY, WE CAN APPEAR SO CONFIDENT & SUCCESSFUL. That’s however ‘a mask’: just our usual practiced responses and our deeply ingrained habits. INWARDLY WE FEEL EMPTY AND UNFULFILLED. Inside, we are unhappy & discontent. We are in inner turmoil with needs that we can’t quite recognize. WE YEARN FOR A DEEP INNER PEACE. We have not yet found what we truly need. Deep within us there exists a need – a
LONG-LASTING HAPPINESS is a state of contentment, fulfillment and inner peace... THIS REQUIRES A SPECIAL STRATEGY! IT'S NOT THE SAME AS SEEKING PLEASURE. We need a new attitude, a change of direction, to achieve lasting or permanent happiness. But who can show us the way? Who would be prepared to help us? It often seems too difficult, too unknown and too threatening. It all just seems too hard! So, usually we just stay in our social circle, interest-group or religion. Here
Some of us have had a major life crisis. Many more of us instead experience a CHRONIC DISSATISFACTION…A SLOW SUFFERING! Some in this ‘dissatisfied’ category view their life as ‘predominantly unsatisfactory’. They experience CONSTANT LOW-GRADE STRESS OR INNER TURMOIL. A crisis in slow motion! A bigger subgroup of dissatisfied people just ‘ lack inner peace’… They’re NOT FULLY CONTENT and CAN’T FIND FULFILLMENT in their lives. They don’t understand the meaning of life and the
What is it that sustains and drives YOU? Is it an addictive tendency? Are you driven to success or to distraction? We have become so addicted… so dependent on living the same way.
We have become our habits… and our habit is so hard to break! Are you living a lie? Can you break the habit? INSTEAD OF BEING DEPENDENT ON OUR LIFE FOR THE SOURCE OF OUR MEANING... WE SHOULD EXPRESS OUR MEANING THROUGH THE WAY WE LIVE OUR LIFE.
Let’s start with THE BACKGROUND on how this all begin
A crisis in our lives may be a good thing, even ‘a blessing’. This is the next life lesson (No.36): CRISES ARE AN OPPORTUNITY FOR CHANGE Crises give us an invitation to stop our usual ways. It’s also an incentive to make a significant change. A crisis gives us A CHANCE TO REDIRECT OUR LIFE. At times of crisis, there is an opportunity to RECONNECT WITH OUR INNER NEEDS. To productively channel them outwards instead of just holding them back. We can finally unleash that deep d