SOS BOOK - Chapter 1.6 Frustration causes un-ease & dis-ease
What can happen if we keep denying our inner needs and our need for unique expression? This leads to an important life lesson, No. 21:
RESISTING INNER SELF-EXPRESSION CAUSES UN-EASE.
The IMMEDIATE RESULT of deferring or denying this deep need for self-expression is UN-ease. If not recognized and corrected this leads to DIS-order and then can become DIS-ease.
Initially we ignore our UN-ease or distract ourselves from the discomfort. This becomes the low-grade dissatisfaction in life that we become used to. It’s the low-grade frustration with our lot in life. However, slowly and unavoidably this dissatisfaction and unhappiness builds.
Eventually, it piles up or mounts up! So, what do we do? Usually we still don’t attend to our true needs and desires in the correct fashion. We keep holding them all back! We either ignore the situation, or further defer the need. We usually hold back until our level of dissatisfaction, inner discomfort or suffering, rises even further. We use defensive mental strategies to build ‘a wall’, to contain the problem. Then we need an even higher wall or bigger levy banks. Even building a big dam to hold it all back. All this takes up precious time and consumes more energy. It drains our finite physical resources and finally exhausts our defenses. We have thus depleted our vitality for life. We are now at risk of a breakdown.
WE SUPPRESS OR LIMIT OUR POTENTIAL AND UNMET NEEDS. WE EMPLOY MENTAL STRATEGIES TO ACT LIKE A DAM. WE TRY TO HOLD BACK OUR DESIRE FOR EXPRESSION AND FULFILLMENT.
Meanwhile we struggle just to keep afloat in the rising turbid waters behind that ‘dam’. The ‘water level’ HOWEVER keeps on rising slowly and inevitably. Our deepest needs and inner desires don’t just stop, they build up. So, there is always more repair work to be done; to maintain the walls, to make them thicker, stronger. We use even more stop-gap measures.
This brings us to the next life lesson No. 22:
WE USUALLY RELY ON TEMPORARY MEASURES FOR OUR UN-EASE.
If we don’t heed these warning signs, this SOS signal, a life-crisis will ensue. This can provide us with another chance, another opportunity to change. A crisis can just be viewed as a break-down, a major hole in the wall of ‘the dam’. But it can also be perceived as a breakthrough, by finally getting our full attention
Will we learn from this crisis? … Initially maybe not! Our intellectual mind can still be too conditioned - too stubborn and ruled by habit.
Sometimes for a while after a crisis we still fantasize that nothing has really changed. That we can somehow keep on living the same old way. Then eventually the realization starts to set in. If not, the crisis may worsen or extend further. Our usual life can grind to a complete halt.
Eventually this life-situation or our own body finally tells us we have no other reasonable option. No matter how much we want to intellectualize or fantasize alternatives!
The only practical solution is to stop, reflect and find a new way forward.
If we don’t heed the warning signs, that inner SOS, we too will face an emergency or life-crisis.
Maybe we should stop beforehand, to reconsider and make some hard life-changing decisions. Perhaps we should LEARN HOW to listen to our inner needs and HOW to unleash our hidden potential. We should heed that inner SOS signal. That is the theme of this book.
The SOS Book is continued in the next blog post: