SOS BOOK (Chapter 4.7) The right attitude – a strategy for success
To succeed at anything, we need the right attitude! In the business or sports field this might be termed a ‘winning attitude’. What is the right attitude for personal development? What attitude will help empower our inner transformation? How might this look in practice? We also continue our ‘racing driver’ analogy to clarify this further.
OUR COMPETITOR IS NOT SOMEONE ELSE.
We do need a strong commitment to the task ahead and our desired destination. But this must be precisely focused and in-tune with what needs to be accomplished. Our attitude should certainly be positive and optimistic, but we must finely focus this quality to a sharp winning edge. We need a ‘winner’s attitude, but our competitor is not another person or team… it’s our self!
OUR MAIN FOE IS A PART OF US GONE ROUGE.
Own MIND is our greatest challenge! The Ego part of our mind will try to undermine us! Everything else is easier to overcome than our own mind. As we strive to better our own performance, we must overcome our mental blocks and inner demons! We must even overcome our own self-sabotage. This is a subtle and relentless interference which undermines our success. It’s sabotage by our own ego in conjunction with our mind!
WE MUST FIRST OVERCOME OUR CONDITIONING & PAST TRAUMA.
We usually start personal development by overcoming our bad habits and old ways. These result from our prior social conditioning, education and training. We have often taken this subtle adaption to our life situation for granted. It takes a certain attitude of awareness to notice this invisible conditioning and address it.
Next, we need to transmute the hidden trauma we have previously suffered. This means better processing our emotions, especially the ones we have buried! We can even learn to use our emotions for instant guidance. This attitude of bravery and forgiveness is useful in any situation!
WE NEED AN CALM ATTITUDE OF INTROSPECTION.
We also need to start our mind training with time out for quiet contemplation. We could proceed to practicing mindfulness and other meditation exercises. We learn how to make an inner connection and tap into our inner knowing for more guidance. A calm attitude with patience and introspection is needed here.
EMBRACE AN ATTITUDE OF COMPASSION & FORGIVENESS.
Along the way, we become more compassionate & loving towards our self and eventually all others. This requires an attitude of loving kindness.
We work on forgiving our self and others for a litany of perceived misdemeanours. We can become more grateful and stop judging & controlling everything. We practise being non-reactive & neutral.
OUR EGO MIND IS AN INVISIBLE ADVERSARY.
This is the comprehensive mind training we need! But why is this required? Our Ego-mind is the main competitor we face, but this is indeed a formidable foe. Few fully overcome this invisible adversary. It remains hidden in plain sight! That’s why we need to train well and be prepared with the right set of attitudes! The Ego-mind does not play fair! It doesn’t abide by any rules! It’s fighting not just for control & superiority, but for its whole existence! It will attack or undermine any attempt to bypass its authority!
THE RIGHT ATTITUDE BRINGS OUT OUR BEST ABILITIES.
To overcome this foe, we need all the ability, capacity, & resilience we can muster. We must especially guard against self-sabotage. Our ego can take us to the point of total destruction, just to take back control! Having the right attitude is central to overcoming all this.
A WINNING ATTITUDE MAKES ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
In our racing car analogy, all contestants are highly capable. But regular winners have a fine margin of difference! The main difference is their personal attitude.
YOU CAN STUDY A ROLE MODEL’S ATTITUDE AS WELL AS THEIR BEHAVIOUR.
In the sports field, we could study the personality traits of our champions & role-models. We can observe their level of drive, determination, and attention to detail. These characteristics are part of their winning attitude.
In personal development, we can seek out the wisdom of top spiritual masters and teachers. We could even ask them to help us. But we should avoid becoming dependent on any guru, group, organization, or philosophy.
In personal development ‘winning’ is perhaps not the best term to use. At some level this could imply having a big Ego. That’s the opposite of what personal transformation achieves.
THE RIGHT ATTITUDE HELPS VISUALISE YOUR GOAL FROM DAY ONE.
We could embrace this ‘right attitude’ from day one and live our life from these principles. We could imagine ourselves living as a winner, in everything we do - even in everyday life!
With regards to both ‘the car race’ or our inner transformation, we utilize our mind for preparation & training. We rehearse and practice scenarios till it all becomes automatic & second nature. We even visualize our success and imagine what it would all feel like! In the racing analogy we imagine the joy of having won our races, the team prize and perhaps even claiming the championship trophy for the season. In personal development we try to imagine the joy & inner peace that higher levels of realization & enlightenment will bring.
ATTITUDE IS SO CRITICAL BECAUSE THE TRANSFORMATION OCCURS IN YOUR MIND.
In our personal transformation, the MAIN EVENT is solely conducted within the mind. It’s predominantly an internal battle! We are competing against our own Ego and our own mind! The Ego’s power & even its entire existence depends on it winning. There will be no greater battle and no greater foe to overcome!
THE RIGHT ATTITUDE WILL INSPIRE US TO EVEN HIGHER LEVELS.
We must want it from the depth of our being. Learning to overcome our Ego-mind also allows us to test the accuracy of our inner needs. Through this virtual simulation, done in our mind, we ‘test drive’ the meaning & purpose of our life. We test our new role.
To succeed in our grand quest, we must merge with our true inner self. Only by utilizing this depth of being have we the capacity to overcome all obstacles. Only then can we encompass our true role & life-purpose, with a winning edge.
THE RIGHT ATTITUDE CAN OVERCOME ANY PERCEIVED LIMITATION.
In adopting the right attitude, we can potentially go one step further than we ever have before. We can aim to surpass all prior achievements. We also add our own unique perspective and our own dream. Then through our inner connection & personal transmutation we enable the enhancement required.
AVOID THE EGO TRAP OF WINNING.
In personal transformation we must be careful not to associate this kind success or ‘winning’ with our Ego. The Ego will want to claim credit for this success and then take back control. That is another trap! So, the ‘right attitude’ for personal development will include being wary of this!
With the right attitude, we can still start our journey like a winner. This will inspire us to train and practise. The mind training aspect of our quest starts from the first moments we commit to changing our self. It may however take some years to build all the components of this. So, the sooner we start the better!
PATIENCE & PERSISTENCE IS THE KEY.
Our brain needs time to physically re-wire, re-prioritize and re-balance. This structural process takes time and practical training. We need to hone our abilities and engage the full capacity required. That provides the winning margin!
A GOOD ATTITUDE HELPS REFRAME YOUR THINKING.
This whole process is all modulated by a fine difference in attitude. Our attitude modifies our perception & our inner reality. This will eventually produce the external reality we seek. A great attitude can reframe our thinking, even in situations that initially appear to be setbacks. This virtual inner world becomes of our training ground. It’s here we overcome our Ego-mind in all its hidden guises. This self-sabotage is our biggest threat. We should be constantly aware of this subtle tendency.
We also know that being efficient is important for productivity. So, is there a way to maximize every moment? Can we also use this strategy to achieve our inner goals? This advantage could give us a winning edge! We discuss this strategy next in Chapter 4.8