SOS BOOK (Chapter 3.8) Start a new life! What’s stopping you?
Many people know they should change their lives, they just don’t do it! Some even know how to start improving their wellbeing, but still don’t do it. Why can’t we ‘just do it’?
WHAT HOLDS US BACK?
IS IT PROCRASTINATION OR SELF-SABOTAGE?
There are indeed many ways to avoid starting or following through on our plan. In a mild form we might simply call this ‘procrastination’. In a more resistant form, we would term this ‘self-sabotage’. Later in this ‘SOS eBook’ we discuss persistent self-sabotage and how to overcome this, in more detail.
HAVING TALENT, KNOWLEDGE & OPPORTUNITIES DOES NOT GUARANTEE A HIGH-QUALITY LIFE.
We all know of people who seem to have superior talents & plentiful opportunities, yet they have such a poor quality of life. They just don’t start or carry through what they are potentially capable of. They don’t make the best of their resources.
DISADVANTAGES IN LIFE CAN LEAD TO REMARKABLE SUCCESS.
By contrast, some remarkable people overcame their disadvantages of suboptimal parenting, life-situation or poor education. Despite all these setbacks, they still achieved remarkable outcomes! These disadvantaged people enjoy a high quality of life.
IT’S WHAT WE ACTUALLY DO THAT COUNTS.
What then determines success in utilizing our hidden potential? We know it’s not our life situation or even our natural talents that are crucial. It’s the COURAGE to start and the DEDICATION to complete the task that’s important. It’s the determination to keep on trying & keep on improving!
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE BY TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR THOUGHTS & CHOICES.
Every reasonably functioning human being can improve their quality of life somewhat, simply by taking control. By taking responsibility for their thoughts and their choices. It does not matter how simply we start. It doesn’t matter if we ‘mess this up’ once, or numerous times. We always have another opportunity, the next chance to improve or get it right!
GIVING UP IS OUR CHOICE & WE BARE THE RESPONSIBILITY.
Our brain’s super-computer and our intuitive guidance waits patiently to prompt and guide us. It will also utilize all our past attempts. This automatic & intrinsic function will not give up. Only we as our sovereign self, can give up in trying. So, we alone bare the responsibility for the outcome!
We do however have a biological lifespan, so the actual time we have left in this lifetime is not unlimited. Plus, the process takes time & practice! There is therefore some urgency to commence this change!
WE CAN LEARN TO DIRECT AN INCREASING QUALITY OF LIFE!
Once we learn the simple procedure of taking control and making positive changes, a whole world of opportunity opens to us. This can occur despite the external circumstances, regardless of whether they are favourable or not.
WE RESIST CHANGE!
· We are usually scared of failing!
· We worry about being marginalized or ‘losing face’.
· We particularly want to avoid the shame, blame and guilt that we might associate with failing.
· Plus, we can have hidden feelings of worthlessness & hopelessness.
Often, we cannot face and overcome the perceived risk. So, we opt out of changing our ways or trying something new! Or, we don’t give it our all, our utmost. We do things half-heartedly, as if somehow there will be less to lose.
RESISTANCE TO CHANGE OFTEN HAPPENS SUBCONSCIOUSLY, WITHOUT OUR KNOWING.
Sometimes after we successfully start some new process or endeavor, we fail to follow through with what’s required. Again, procrastination or our subconscious self-saboteurs do their work. These mechanisms have been installed and practiced from early childhood. The first step is becoming more aware of these.
COURAGE AND MOMENTUM CAN OVERCOME OUR RESISTANCE & SELF-SABOTAGE.
Here is an example of an antidote to resistance. If fear of failure is such a big issue for us, then perhaps we could view this situation differently. We could look at the term ‘failure’ NOT as the inability to succeed on the first, second or multiple attempts, but as a ‘failure to persevere’.
FAILURE IS THE REGRET OF NOT STARTING WHAT WE REALLY WANTED!
There is a lingering sorrow from not having given our full resources & maximum commitment. Have we wasted so much time and avoided so many opportunities?
The decision is ours to take! We can expect an improvement in our perception of life, despite the circumstances! Yet this is merely the start of the process. An exciting journey and a further quest lie ahead if we wish to pursue this. This path leads to ever increasing awareness, capacities & abilities.
REAL FAILURE IS ARRIVING AT OUR DEATH BED FEELING EMPTY & UNFULFILLED!
So, will we accept this new opportunity to learn how to change ourselves? This path leads to lasting happiness and increasing levels of deep fulfillment and inner peace. This does not however mean that the path will always be easy! It will always be a challenge! It can even be quite difficult at times!
We CAN optimize our abilities, wisdom and compassion, to realize our highest potential. This SOS BOOK suggests such a program. It commences with some useful background knowledge and some simple re-education. The discussion on how we transform our life continues in Chapter 3.9.