SOS BOOK (Chapter 3.5) Better understanding the THIRD KEY to personal success
REVIEWING THE THIRD KEY:
WE OPTIMALLY EXPRESS OURSELVES THOUGH THE GIVING OF OUR TALENT & ABILITY.
The THIRD key or principle for success in our life quest involves expressing ourselves with the right motivation! We first introduced this KEY in Chapter 3.2. To be of maximum benefit & service, we also need to utilize compassion and practice unconditional love. That becomes a further exciting challenge! This is explained in future chapters. Success results in even more joy, equanimity & fulfillment. But let’s first start with the basics:
WE AIM TO GIVE OUR TALENT FREELY & JOYFULLY.
WE AIM TO BE OF SERVICE TO OTHERS.
How do we more easily & joyfully give of our talent? We do this by maintaining a bountiful state of gratitude. That is more than being grateful for what we have acquired or even for our special talents. It’s ideally from the deeper appreciation of who we really are. Eventually it’s realizing our true connection with all others and ‘all that is’.
So, optimally, what we really ‘give’ or ‘gift’ to others is NOT just material things. It’s not even our abilities & talents alone.
WHAT WE AIM TO GIVE IS OUR COMPASSION & LOVING KINDNESS.
This type of ‘loving’ or ‘love’ is not the romantic or sexual type, but a Universal or unconditional love. It’s selfless and given without any attachment. It’s offered without seeking any material benefit or reward. This is synonymous with UNCONDITIONAL or UNIVERSAL LOVE.
A MASTER KEY THAT INCORPORATES ALL 3 KEYS WOULD PERHAPS BE…
JUST LOVE ALL!
But to use this MASTER KEY properly we need to realize & deeply appreciate all the many facets of Universal Love. Plus we need to comprehend the true nature & extent of ‘ALL’ as being ‘ALL THERE IS & EVER WILL BE’. That’s quite a task!
So, it’s probably better to ‘start small’ by understanding the individual keys as currently outlined. Similarly, the terms ‘loving kindness’ or ‘compassion’ are probably easier to understand than the term ‘Unconditional Love’.
‘LOVING-KINDNESS’ REQUIRES WISDOM AND EXPANDED AWARENESS.
By utilizing this, we build even more lasting happiness and inner peace. This is a major theme which we develop in this SOS Book.
AIM TO BE COMPASSIONATE & LOVING IN ALL THAT WE DO.
This starts with first loving OURSELVES! Remember, we aim to do all this out of gratitude & joy, and with no strings attached. This includes having compassion for all life, but especially where Higher Consciousness exists.
WE AIM TO MINIMIZE THE SUFFERING OF ALL SENTIENT BEINGS.
This includes minimising psychological or emotional suffering. Scientific experiments confirm the ongoing damage caused by psychological suffering. Laboratory animals subjected to various forms of deprivation, shock & experimental stress develop significant disorders. This is particularly significant when inflicted during early development.
Damage from suffering can range from an inability to develop and learn properly, through to behavioural abnormalities and pre-disposition to disease. There is also an increase in anxiety, depression & psychosomatic disease.
THE CLINICAL DISORDER DEPENDS ON THE TYPE, TIMING & PATTERN OF THE SUFFERING.
For example, in rats, experimental trauma in early childhood can remain latent and have effects long after the initial sensitizing episode. Some subsequent minor trauma can then activate and bring this functional disorder to notice. Post-traumatic stress disorder is humans is one such example. Another is the psychological disorder & pain syndromes occurring after childhood abuse.
There are also many lesser forms of non-physical or functional disorders that can occur following perceived trauma or abuse. Many PSYCHOLOGICAL & PSYCHIATRIC disorders also have components of some perceived trauma. These further illustrate the enormous damage that abuse & trauma can sometimes cause.
KNOWING ALL THIS, HOW SHOULD WE THEN BEHAVE? WHAT SHOULD WE AIM FOR?
We discuss this further and what our ‘higher motivation’ should be in Chapter 3.6