SOS BOOK - Chapter 1.3 What are our 'inner needs' & why are they important?
What exactly are ‘inner needs’? What are these inner yearnings & deep desires? We might not be aware we have these or know what they are! Could they really be that important for our health and general wellbeing? This theme is central to this book and we postulate that…
IF OUR INNER NEEDS ARE NOT MET, THIS CAN AFFECT OUR EMOTIONAL, MENTAL & PHYSICAL WELLBEING.
Let’s first set the stage for this discussion with 'life-lesson' No. 8:
WE ARE ALL UNIQUE AND HAVE GREAT POTENTIAL
This is an important declaration! Each of us is a unique individual with vast untapped ability and potential. We can hardly deny that!
WE HAVE AN INHERENT DESIRE OR ‘NEED’ TO AUTHENTICALLY EXPRESS OURSELVES.
Our challenge is to realize this need. In doing so we usually uncover our special gifts & talents. We can then fully utilize these for the benefit of all. Only by doing this will we find the contentment, fulfillment and the inner peace we deeply yearn for.
OUR YEARNING FOR FULFILLMENT & INNER-PEACE IS INTRINSICALLY BUILT INTO US. It’s part of our human nature! By not acknowledging & following our true path we suffer chronic dissatisfaction. A feeling of incompleteness or emptiness can build within us.
Our inner needs are not the superficial likes, wants or wishes of our everyday life. They are not mere whims, fashions or fancies... OUR TRUE INNER NEEDS ARE DEEP SPIRITUAL YEARNINGS & DESIRES ASSOCIATED WITH OUR UNIQUE LIFE PURPOSE. Inner needs demand their fulfillment; they enable our ultimate individual expression. These are a mark of our uniqueness and great potential!
Our inner needs seem to be more than some primal survival program in our genetic code. They extend to our learned abilities and require that we develop of our special gifts & talents for the benefit of others. This drive extends to our higher order functioning such as the need for fulfillment and inner-peace. It even leads us to optimally express these abstract qualities in our life.
OUR INNER NEEDS DETERMINE WHICH DIRECTION IN LIFE WE SHOULD HEAD. That path or preferred way forward is more likely to fulfill our potential.
INNER-NEEDS PROVIDE MOTIVATION & ACT AS A GUIDE TO OUR OPTIMAL PATH IN LIFE.
This principle is closely related to 'life-lesson' No. 9:
INNER NEEDS ARE A MARK OF OUR INDIVIDUALITY
We have a hidden drive to express ourselves uniquely. To share our unique abilities and perspective. To be of benefit or service to others. This is best done utilizing our own special talents and life experience. Only we have this unique combination!
If our drive for unique expression, greatness & service could be concentrated and crystallized down to its essence, this would be akin to an ‘inner-need’.
OUR INDIVIDUAL UNIQUENESS IS MORE THAN OUR GENETIC MAKEUP & ACQUIRED PERSONALITY. It also includes our expressed talents, abilities & gifts. Plus, our life experience & acquired wisdom. This also includes the spiritual or greater component of who we really are. WE HAVE A UNIVERSAL PERSPECTIVE & AN EVOLUTIONARY PATH THAT IS UNIQUE TO US.
DIFFERENT INNER NEEDS RESULT IN A WIDE RANGE OF INDIVIDUAL PATHS.
The inner needs of individuals are all slightly different. They could be thought of as a slight ‘flaw’ or a departure from the norm. But this gives us a special difference: a unique variation. Like a natural diamond bearing its unique marks or flaws, our inner-needs and drives are similarly precious and irreproducible. A synthetically produced diamond, by being to uniform is ‘too perfect’ or too artificial looking. It lacks the rare difference of a natural gem. In the eye of an expert, that unique difference or “flaw” becomes an inherent part of its beauty. Similarly, with each unique human life: Our deep inner needs and their expression are similarly our special markings and characteristics. They identify individual human difference at its core.
This naturally leads to 'life-lesson' No. 10:
WE NEED TO DISCOVER OUR TRUE INNER NEEDS
We need to determine our unique inner needs, and to follow their call. This helps guide us to our full potential.
WE WANT AND NEED TO EXPRESS OUR INDIVIDUALITY. This is the essence of being a human with free will. We are each a special, unique and exquisite individual.
WE QUICKLY TIRE OF UNIFORMITY or perfect ‘sameness’ in life, but we don’t easily tire of exquisite beauty that epitomizes such a unique difference.
If we were to forcefully constrain our inner nature under great pressure would that really be of benefit? That would only synthesize some amorphous, homogenous or mass-produced product. Like a synthetically produced diamond, these don’t have the beauty or value of a natural gem. In spite all its flaws and unpredictable cutting characteristics, a natural diamond is still the more precious.
This analogy continues in 'life-lesson' No. 11:
OUR LIVES HAVE WONDROUS POTENTIAL – TO SHINE LIKE A POLISHED JEWEL
A polished gem highlights its many shining facets, its individual nature, unique color and precious flaws…
Our life’s brilliant expression, like that of a finished jewel, commences with the unearthing of its raw form. WE MAY INITIALLY SEE OURSELVES AS ROUGH OR LACKING IN BEAUTY OR POTENTIAL. But rough or glassy gemstones after being cut & polished can become a wonder & delight. Our deepest inner needs are ‘the seeds’ and the markers of these rare gems. They signal the potential for great brilliance.
'Life-lesson' No. 12 naturally follows from this:
OUR LIFE QUEST SHOULD BE TO MANIFEST OUR FULL POTENTIAL
We should aim to bring this goal to fruition! To manifest our full quality and beauty. We all have the potential to contribute great value and brilliance, however much we might protest otherwise. WE DO THIS BY ACKNOWLEDGING OUR SPECIFIC INNER NEEDS AND THEN SIMPLY FOLLOWING OUR JOY & PASSION IN LIFE. This is the secret to manifesting our full potential.
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